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Sigh. Like many others, I am missing the old days of LJ (read as "LJ" or "DW") when there was just more interaction. Thing is, I am not sure what to do to compensate for that. With old friends, people move on in life and don't post/comment as often, or they change interests and the topics they post about no longer interest you. I am that way myself. Things I used to post about in here end up in a Facebook one-liner, or get shared with the Sculptor and never make it in here.

And then, even if they did, I wonder if that post would just get the crickets chirping.

One of the things I had that I no longer have is an active fandom to post about. I have shows and books that I like, but my old friends might not be into those same shows/books. And to enter the "fandom" of books/shows you are newly fannish about in order to make new friends, it seems you need to have an interest in fan fiction--either reading it or writing it--or icons, or videos. And I am not interested in any of those things. I had a fan fiction project, once. It met a need I had at the time, and once it did that, I was done. That was more about the need to see a story I liked on the television finished than a need to write in a particular fictional universe.

People just seem less interested in essays and discussion, and that's my way of being fannish.

I wish my life were more colorful than it is, but it isn't. I go to work, I write original fiction, I spend time with my GF, I go to bed and get up and do it all over again. Most days.

Sigh.

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chaos_by_design
Jan. 18th, 2012 12:09 am (UTC)
I feel the same way, even about fandom. I can't bear to read most fanfic because it's either just really poorly written (you really have to sift to find a decent one) or it involves things that seriously squick me (like non-con, dub-con, etc).

I love fannish essays and discussion! Anytime you want to yammer on and on about a fandom, go right ahead. I'll read it, as long as I like the fandom.

I do miss the old LJ, but look on the bright side: at least you're getting laid. ;)
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:03 am (UTC)
I'll read it, as long as I like the fandom.

This is part of the issue. Me and my friends all seem to be fandom-adjacent these days.

LOL, I wish I could get laid *and* have awesome online conversations both.
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ann1962
Jan. 18th, 2012 12:14 am (UTC)
Me too. Part of the reason I think I'm loving finding my family history, is that it *feels* a little like reading lj. Others stories anyway...

And much of the fannish stuff has turned to Tumblr, and somehow, I think, that it is worse than FB, because no words at all.
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:04 am (UTC)
Yeah, you really have to be picture-oriented to want to do the tumblr thing, I think, and I am word-oriented. Essay-oriented.

Which makes me really weird. Except with you guys.
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masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:05 am (UTC)
They do meta on Tumblr? How?
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masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:18 am (UTC)
Most books, TV shows, and films I see don't inspire blogging for me, that's part of the issue. I don't feel the need to talk about everything, just things that hit my triggery themes. So it's really hit and miss if anyone on my flist has read or seen it.
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spiletta42
Jan. 18th, 2012 02:25 am (UTC)
This might be relevant to your interests: metafandom Personally, I avoid it, because the repetitive political essays are tiring to me, and also because I'm too timid to express my opinion on someone else's journal these days, but if you have the patience, there's usually plenty of good discussion to be found.
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:22 am (UTC)
I have skimmed that page a few times, and I don't like people who talk *about* fandom. It usually gets into the petty stuff that happens in all fan-gathering forums that interferes with the fun. I don't see the point of it.

Plus, I'm with you: political essays=instant hives and ulcers.
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a2zmom
Jan. 18th, 2012 02:45 am (UTC)
I miss the old fandom days also, but I also enjoy reading about what people are up to, even if I don't always comment.
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:23 am (UTC)
I think that's part of the problem. If no one comments, you start to think no one's reading, and so you stop posting.

I tried to get a counter going on my LJ a while back to see who was reading what posts, but that got hard to maintain.
ponygirl2000
Jan. 18th, 2012 02:48 am (UTC)
I like hearing about your life! Your work ethic when it comes to writing is always inspiring.
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:25 am (UTC)
I gave up the weekly writing check-ins precisely because it seemed no one was reading, and they didn't serve a motivational purpose for me (helping with that work ethic).

I have often thought of trying something like blogging on topics related to writing that aren't necessarily about anything specific I am writing at the time, but again, I worry that I will spend time putting together an essay on a subject that no one will read.
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cornerofmadness
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:01 am (UTC)
I'm not actually having this problem since my fandoms are vast and varied but honestly I'm more interested in the person and what's going on with them than I am in fan posts any how so I usually am reading even if I don't always have time to post a comment
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:33 am (UTC)
That's it, I need to start using that counter on my posts again, so I know who's reading.

; )
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mamculuna
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:14 am (UTC)
So agree. I've made some new friends, and new communities, but it still isn't happening like it used to.

But the life you describe? Somebody might call it boring, but somebody else might call it contentment.

Edited at 2012-01-18 03:16 am (UTC)
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 03:34 am (UTC)
I wonder how we can breath some life into the old bird.

But the life you describe? Somebody might call it boring, but somebody else might call it contentment.

Then I'm not telling all, because there's plenty about it I'm not content with. I just have gotten tired of using my LJ as a bitching forum, 'cause that never seems to help improve the things I am less than content with.

Edited at 2012-01-18 03:37 am (UTC)
scrollgirl
Jan. 18th, 2012 06:35 am (UTC)
I hear there's some talk of reviving metafandom, or at least having some independent metafandom type discussion posts, which I'd assume would cover panfandom/universal topics and wouldn't necessarily be focused on fanfic.

Do you know sholio at all? She had a poll up recently.
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 01:06 pm (UTC)
Ah, meta-fest, not meta-fandom. Certainly don't want to talk about the fans. Actual humans bore me.

; )

I took the poll.
lakrids404
Jan. 18th, 2012 01:29 pm (UTC)
ping!
dlgood
Jan. 18th, 2012 05:32 pm (UTC)
Believe it or not, I kind of think I've run out of stuff to say.

There are things I like, but nothing I'm particularly passionate about to engage in the fandom way I used to during the TWOP/LJ prime.

I do still read people though I rarely comment. I'd rather just kind of hang out...
masqthephlsphr
Jan. 18th, 2012 06:04 pm (UTC)
Hanging out is a valid option. However, one's presence on the internet is marked by what you write, not merely being there. Readers are invisible in most social networking set-ups, and hence as good as if not there at all, from anyone else's perspective. This may or may not be a problem for you.

(I can think of one platform where I *wanted* to be invisible to simply read and couldn't be - the ATPo chatroom. You enter, your name appears. And no one believed me when I said, "I'm a hedge. Move along.")

What I myself want is simply interaction. Doesn't have to be about fandom, just has to be chit-chit of any entertaining kind, whether it is on daily life stuff, writing, fandom, work-bitching, what have you.
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